Meet the Author
Nicholas Tanek is an American ghostwriter from New Brunswick, New Jersey. He graduated from Rutgers University with a bachelor's degree in English. Nicholas Tanek grew up as a New Jersey punk rock skater kid who lost himself in the early 90’s New York City rave scene. After years of drug addiction, he got his life together when he was reunited with Lynn, the love of his life, before she died at the age of 37. Instead of choosing negativity, he chose creativity. Losing Lynn inspired him to write his first book, The Coolest Way To Kill Yourself. There is quite a bit of kinky sex, drugs, and music in the life of Nicholas Tanek and he has some unique stories to tell.
Social Media Links
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Your Kinky Friends (Facebook): https://www.facebook.com/groups/278102449249264/
The Coolest way to Kill Yourself
By Nicholas Tanek
Okay, so no one actually kills themselves in this book.
Yourself pulls you into the early 90’s New York City rave scene, in all its chaotic, psychedelic glory. The narrator grabs you by your wrist and drags you behind two teenage lovers from New Jersey as they tumble through a whirlwind of reckless hedonism that eventually spirals into a dark, devastating world of drug addiction and heartbreak.
As a teenager, Lynn cried, “No one is ever going to write something for me.”
Nearly two decades later, in the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, Nicholas did just that. The gesture came too late for our unlikely heroine, but a true love.
Reunited after years apart, Lynn and Nicholas embraced their love and sexuality, and embraced each other, despite troubled pasts, despite illness, despite all of their imperfections and mistakes. They shared the kind of honest and shameless connection that few have had the honor of knowing, and most would never understand.
“We’re not hurting anyone. We’re just living life without caring what anyone thinks about us, without caring about the consequences.”
It’s the coolest way to kill ourselves,” Lynn said.
So turn the page, and pull the trigger.
Chipped Black Nail Polish
By Nicholas Tanek
A tribute to a different kind of Jersey girl. In New Jersey during the summer of 1989, an awkward thirteen-year-old who was obsessed with weird music fell head-over-heels in love with the coolest post-punk rock girl he had ever met. Nicholas was insecure. He was a daydreamer, wishing for romance when he was told, over and over, that he could not have it. He was a toy, pulled and pushed, wanted and used, dragged along yet held at a distance. Nicholas fell in with the out crowd, and loved every minute of it. He fell in love and got left behind, but not before she changed him forever.
This is an irrational, emotional love story for the teenager inside all of us. The music is loud, and you’re about to be pushed into the pit.
The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself
by Nicholas Tanek
Chipped Black Nail Polish
by Nicholas Tanek
Interview with Sirens
1. When and why did you begin writing?
Nicholas Tanek: I’ve been writing since I was a kid. I remember that in 8th grade, I wrote 3 screenplays. They were horrible, but the effort was there. As I grew up, I did journalism. I wrote interviews and reviews for music and film. Lynn was the one who inspired me to write my first book, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself. After she passed away, I had this need to write a book as a tribute to her. It is a true love story that spans over 20 years.
2. When did you first consider yourself a writer?
Nicholas Tanek: I always considered myself a writer, but the first time someone specifically asked me to write something and they wanted to pay me was a wonderful point in my life.
3. Do you plot out your books on paper? Or seat of your pants?
Nicholas Tanek: All my books are true. I just change the names and label them fiction for legal reasons. So, I know the beginning, middle, and end. The key is what details and stories are relevant to the themes and emotion of the book.
4. Are experiences based on someone you know, or events in your own life?
Nicholas Tanek: Like I said, all my books are true. I just change the names and label them fiction for legal reasons. I tried to write fiction, but I feel more comfortable with fictionalized non-fiction.
5. What books have most influenced your life?
Nicholas Tanek: The Book of Peace by Richard Shannon. Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas by Hunter S. Thompson. I also like books by comedians. Chris Gethard, Julie Klausner, Marc Maron, and Patton Oswalt all have some very cool and funny books out.
6. If you had to choose, which writer would you consider a mentor?
Nicholas Tanek: Hunter S. Thompson... because he was so wild and did not care what people thought.
7. What book are you reading now?
Nicholas Tanek: The Confederacy Of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole, Girl In A Band by Kim Gordon, and Silver Screen Fiend by Patton Oswalt.
8. What are your current projects?
Nicholas Tanek: My new book is a sequel to The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself. It is called Your Kinky Friends and it deals with my experiences in the NJ/NY BDSM fetish community. It’s a tribute to friendship and how people try deal with loss and depression through sex. It’s a love story too. Lynn is back in flashbacks. Kevin is back. Mokey is back. It’s a very sexual book, but it’s not a masturbation romance novel. I’m proud of it. The book is very unique. Hopefully, people will learn about and understand the beauty of the kink community. Basically, it’s a celebration of kink, friendship, and sexual expression.
9. Do you see writing as a career?
Nicholas Tanek: Definitely. I would love to write for television. I would love my books to be successful, but I would always rather write the books that I want to write. There are so many authors who only write for the money. It’s insulting. So many cheesy authors out there are writing really dumb BDSM novels that do not represent the culture. They just want to be the next Fifty Shades Of Grey. Instead, they are flooding the market with garbage. So, I would always rather write something that is from the heart and with integrity.
10. Is there anything you find particularly challenging in writing?
Nicholas Tanek: Making sure the editing is as perfect as can be. My editor is brutal and will always say exactly how she feels. There are always some grammar or phrasing issues that need to be solved. Sometimes, working together can be challenging, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I love working with her. We make a good team. We always end up having a lot of fun. Those challenges actually become wonderful bonding experiences.
11. Who is your favorite author and what is it that really strikes you about their work?
Nicholas Tanek: That changes all the time. I cannot pick just one. I love Hunter S. Thompson because he is fearless and wild. I like Anais Nin because she was not scared to be a woman empowered by sexuality at a time where it was considered forbidden. I like Julie Klausner because she is very funny and has great taste. I like Patton Oswalt because he is hilarious and can be very touching at the same time.
12. Do you have any advice for other writers?
Nicholas Tanek: Write. Just don’t give up. Be original and write from the heart. The world does not need another book that jumps on the bandwagon of some trend. Does the world need another book about billionaire stepbrother vampire doms?
13. Which of your books do you like the most?
Nicholas Tanek: I love them all but The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself will always hold a special place in my heart because it is a tribute to Lynn, the love of my life. The book changed my life. Writing the book was such an emotional ride. I’ve met so many wonderful friends and fans because of that book. Having The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself published led to many things. I became friends with Coco from The Ettes, I had lunch with Jim Reid of The Jesus & Mary Chain. I now have a show on Network Awesome and met one of my heros, Tom Scharpling from The Best Show. Most of all, that book truly changed people’s lives for the better. I get messages from fans who tell me the book helped them in many ways.
14. Do you get nervous when you publish a book?
Nicholas Tanek: Not really. I work so hard on the book that I don’t publish it without being proud of it. If anything, I get excited because I believe in it. Sure, some people may not like it, but I have faith that some people will love it.
Nicholas Tanek: Pizza, Salmon, Shrimp, Lobster, and really well made quesadillas.
Favorite time of day?
Nicholas Tanek: The night time is the right time for me.
What do you do to relax?
Nicholas Tanek: Film and television. I love movies and good TV.
Nicholas Tanek: Black.
Cats or dogs?
Nicholas Tanek: I love both. Although I have a dog named Mokey, I have a love for cats. My friend Tam Tam and I have this obsession with cats. My friends and I are actually loosely working on a kids show about punk rock ninja kittens.
Favorite music genre?
Nicholas Tanek: I find cool music in all genres. These days, I have been listening to a lot of indie rock music. The bands who I have been playing lately are Sweet Spirit, A Giant Dog, PAS/CAL, Pulp, The Dandy Warhols, Roxy Music, Reigning Sound, The Ettes, LCD Soundsystem, Close Lobsters, My Bloody Valentine, and much more. My record collection is huge.
What questions would you like to ask your readers?
Nicholas Tanek: How did my book make you feel?